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Please let us know when you find your friend or loved one! Everyone likes to hear
about successful endings to other peoples searches. After all, they have been reading your
messages daily and have been wondering whatever happened to you! Besides, if you don't
tell us, your message will stay with us for a very long time! Unfortunately, most of the
time, the only time we hear from you again is when you try to answer someone else's
message and the e-mail address is bad!
We appreciate your telling us when you find your missing person so we
can remove your message, but we prefer to put stories in here from those who have said how
they found their missing person. Even if we didn't help you, your successful
reunions will help and encourage others. If you have a story you want included here,
just write to firstname.lastname@example.org and
tell us HOW you found them.
Here is what some of our viewers have said:
Linda and The Seeker: I am happily notifying you that you may remove
my listing from your website; I have been reunited with my nephew Jonathan!
In January 1998 I began placing my "searching for adoptee" listing in
numerous search sites, including The Seeker. I was searching for my twin sister's
son, as she did not have internet access. Since my sister's son (Jonathan) was to
turn 21 this year, my hope was that Jon may be in college and have internet access
and therefore may come across my listing upon beginning his own search for us, his
birth family. I am
ecstatic to say that my hopes and prayers were answered! Just days ago I received a
call from another site telling me that they had a match for
my listing. They provided me with all Jon's contact information along with his
consent and wishes that we call him. I sped breathlessly to my sister's home. She
called Jon immediately as I sat in on an extension
phone. At the end of their conversation, my sister said that she would really like
to see him some time and when did he think he might be able to come for a visit. He
said, "I can leave in 20 minutes..." Jon then
traveled about 2 hours to our city and met his birth mom, a birth brother and birth
sister he was not aware that he had, and several cousins. Jon also met his father.
Although these past few days have been a whirlwind of activity, we are all so
excited and happy to meet this young man, who my twin sister so painfully yet
courageously gave to an adoption agency 21 years ago to place with a loving family
who could better meet his needs in his new life.
I know from pouring over the thousands of listings in many adoption search sites
that so many people have tried finding their adoptees or birth families for so very
long. My suggestions would be to follow as
many links as possible to sites such as this and list ALL the information you have
on the person your are seeking. (I also received a call from another site I was
registered with, notifying me that they had
also matched my listing with Jon's own listing... so register with ALL these FREE
sites! The more places you put your listing, the better the chance that it will be seen.)
Register with the ISSR (International
Soundex Reunion Registry.) Read as much as you can regarding the avenues open to
searching public records. Talk to all your relatives for bits
and pieces they may remember. And most of all, keep the faith. We have waited 21
years for this day to come and we thank God, and the wonderful
people such as those who maintain this site for making reunions such as this
possible. Bless you all.
My ad (#'s 9239 & 14121) may now be removed from The Seeker. Thank
you for making this web site available. Unfortunately, I was not able to get any
leads from my web searches, but an underground source was able to locate her within 48
hours of my phone call....
My adoption took place in FL...I had a heck of a time getting info from DSHS. I
finally asked one of the clerks, "off the record", if they had any suggestions
to help me locate my mom....I was then given the name of an investigator with a good track
record. The rest is history. We met a few weeks later, and have been trying to make up for
the last 30 years.
Again, I just wanted to say thank you.
We are so thrilled about the capabilities of the internet and the way
it has changed my daughters life. We've been looking for her birthfather in many
different ways for quite some time. This year I decided to buy myself a computer and
one day we were sitting around playing with the computer
and an idea popped into my head. I told my daughter how about looking for your
father on the internet. She just looked at me and said well, whatever.
don't think I'll ever meet him anyway.
She never met him because when I got pregnant at 16 years of age, he didn't feel he
was ready, so I got
up and left and did what I wanted to do, have my baby. This was in 1982.
She is now 16 years old and all she holds of his is a photo I kept for all those years.
Anyway, we put in a request to info seekers and we had to wait 24 hours for a list
that might match who we were looking for. 24
hours later when I checked my e-mail there was a list very long, so I checked
through it and there was her fathers name and I just knew that was him. By the way
we lived in the Bronx for a long time so I was only
looking in NY that is what made our search sooooo long. We wrote that person a letter and
waited to see if they would respond. Approximately 4 days later my daughter received a
phone call, as I approached her room I saw her crying with much emotion, so I grabbed the
phone and said "Who is this" his reply was this is Luis, then a moment of
honestly I didn't belive he would be found. Please note the phone call came in @ 4 days
before her 16th birthday.
So he was full of emotions also and disbelief but everything turned out all positive and
well. He lives out in Wisconsin is why we couldn't find him.
We made arrangements and he flew out here to meet her July 31, 1998.
They speak on the phone everyday get along rather well. They are identical. And a word to
anyone who has hopes of finding someone, keep looking you will find them, and I hope
everyone that is searching for
someone has a success story like ours. Good Luck to all of you.
P.S. My daughter Jasmine will be spending her first Thanksgiving in Wisconsin with her
Hope my story wasn't too long. I wish I could tell you all of the week he was here
with her. Great story.
My son located me through the adoption agency that placed him. You can
cancel my message. We are doing great, have meet and I have a lovely
daughter-in-law and 4 grandchildren!
I found my birth mom and it felt GREEEEEAAAAATTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!! Boy even
typing that felt great. Well I did it after 12 years of searching and I finally ended my
search and the hardest one of all. I ran adds # 26672, 26673, & 28584.
I found her through mutally consent forms. Mine was easy. It only took from June of 1998
till August 23, 1998.
I made first contact on August 23, 1998 at 10:06 A.M. and WOW!! My wife's search just got
harder and we
still are searching for her, she was born 5-24-72 in Bedford, Ohio please lets still help
her please past the word on for her. However I could not have done it with out
www.the-seeker.com please keep the site active and help others I found so much info in the
adoption site under Misc. that I was able to find her in such a
short time. Linda, GOD BLESS YOU AND THE-SEEKER.COM !!!!! Dave Sanshuck also known at birth as
I want to thank you for this web page. We have located who we were
looking for, although it was not from your web-site, that is where I got the information
from to be able to find him. It's not a happy ending yet, as we have not contacted him,
but at least we know where he is now.
Thank you again. Message was for David Denbo #23330
This is from Sandra
Please remove the ad from your service. I have found the person I was
looking for with the help of many people I had the pleasure of meeting
on the internet.
I found my Birth mother 2 days after my 41st birthday......I called her
and as you can imagine..she was in shock. ( I didn't want to believe it.....but she didn't
remember my birthdate)......but I let that go.....
I called her back 3 days later.....Oh it was a wonderful call....she wanted to meet
me.....just sweet as pie!! I was soooo tickled. Finally after so many
years. I even have a brother.
Well... I called her....wrote to her.....she was so sweet on the phone...then backed it up
with a nasty letter.....but I let it pass......shock you know.....Give her time.....I
thought.....that will help...
I gave her time....time for everything.....for 8 months she promised me to tell my brother
about me......well....finally I searched for him .....after
honoring all her wishes....(.I did everything she asked of me).......So..I decided I would
search for my brother.....I found him.....I wrote him......needless to say..he was in
shock also......he knew there was
something she was hiding....but didn't know what it was.
He confronted her......with my letter. He said a great burden had been lifted off her
shoulders...she was really relieved...that I found him.....now she didn't have to tell
him....relief!! Which I was happy for her....she didn't have to tell... Ok this is
good...I took the burden off of her......Maybe now????
Well, I found out.....my mother didn't want anyone to know about me....you know her own
sister and mother didn't know she was PG with me.....can you
believe that??? She really wanted me to be a well kept secret....and I still am...
Anyway....I called her on her birthday .....what a mistake.....she didn't
care...even though my brother said to....it would make her happy....it didn't.....she was
doing her hair.....I interrupted ....oops...sorry mom....
I asked my brother if he thought it would be ok....to send her my handmade place mats for
a Christmas present and if he would give them to her.....he
said YES!!!.....He did and he said she cried.....she was overwhelmed..... I sent those
because now I know where my crafting ability came from......from
MOM......Maybe now Mom???
Then.....I also found out from her...in a letter ...I am an embarrassment to her... she
really didn't want to know me at all.....ok.....I left her alone... I have my brother, at
least he likes me......we talk all the time.... Anyway.....It has been a hurtful
....heartbreaking ......meeting ..even though
just thru letter and a couple phone calls....I found out who she turned out to be.... I am
thankful......I am nothing like her....I don't hurt people on purpose....
Like her.....she had the image with her friends of being Miss Perfect....and I ruined that
in her mind.....especially if anyone found out. You can tell by now I am so hurt...... But
here is the finale...
I wanted so much to meet her.....but we were so far apart....she on the east coast ..me on
I never got a chance to meet her ...as she passed away .
No matter how bitter and how hurt my feelings were....I still wanted to meet her....She is
/ was still MY mom..... But I never got the chance.....Her last letter to me
was...."honor my wishes" DO NOT fly out here......I wrote her back....saying I
wouldn't.....but it hurt.
Then I got the news.....my heart just sunk......
You see...I never pushed her on anything....Now I do not know anything about my
father.....on my non ID info...it is all lies......she covered her tracks.....his too...
Well...not all reunions work out.......but they do not have to be so hurtful. So ...I
guess what I am trying to say...adoptees.....beware......it may not
all be happy and perfect......The way we all dream......of MOM. And to
Birthmoms.......please don't lead your children on ...like you want
a relationship......when you don't......please be truthful......but please give all info
...medical and otherwise....to your child.....then say good bye...at
least they will know..... You see my Mother died of Cancer......but she told me there were
problems at all......Her sister passed away a month before her of cancer....so now
look what I have to look forward to.....Please give all medical info ..that is the least
you can do.....even if you don't want to know your child/children.
This is Joe Cash. I found my father, mother, three half brothers, half
sister, full sister and full brother. Thanks for all your help.
My Email address is email@example.com
Thank you so much for your service! After not seeing my younger brother
for 10 years because of family disputes, I finally got up the courage to
search for him. I knew nothing of his whereabouts. I was so excited when I saw his name
appear as a result of my query and used you little 'knock-knock'
service to send him a brief message with lots of hope. To my surprise I received a
response in less than 5 minutes! My brother was on the
internet at the same time. He said he had also searched for me but without success.
He gave me his phone number,and I called him. We talked for about 20 minutes and our
relationship is now renewed : ) Again, thank you.
Sincerely - John N. Viands and Brother!
I did leave a message some time ago on your page but I have good news,
very good news. I was
very young and had to give up my daughter for adoption 32 (thirty two) years ago, and yes
we found each other. I searched many years immediatley after giving her up, I was really
advised to give her up by many adults in my world at the time. I had refused to sign final
papers until court action was threatened to my parents. I signed. Last Spring of 1998, I
learned the Catholic Agency that handled our case from the beginning, opened their files
for "searches". I did all the paper work, notorized and paid the fee. A short
time later, 3 mo.'s, we were
able to connect the adoption name to my case. Wolla! It matched and we met on July 9,
1998. The following night she & I met each others' families. I had tried many
agencies, homepages, internet groups, but finally came full circle to the very agency I
started with. My daughter's name is Krista Beth & she has been looking for me for many
years as well. I had more information than her so ultimatley it was my serach that brought
us together but how wonderful it is to get to know her now. We are spending a long Labor
Day holiday weekend together.
Getting to know her will be great, as I already love her & have for a long time.
Sincerely, Pat Cascio
Located missing brother and have communicated. Located by using American
Information network. Report was excellant and led to reunion. Thank you
for your site. I still review on a regular basis. You never know who may pop up!!
Cathy L. Burks
I Found My Birthmother!!
Hello everyone, I just talked to my birthmother on the phone and I believe everything went
great. We are both looking forward to meeting sometime in
the future. I just want to
THANK YOU ALL IN YOUR PART IN MY SEARCH!!!!!!!!
Found Birthmother 8/19/98
Finally found my friend Pat Pearl Cardidi by looking in the Social
Security Death records and finding out when her dad died. I then contacted someone
named Doug at the local newspaper and asked about accessing the obituaries.
He said you can't do that online but he would look for me when he had time.
A couple of weeks later he e mailed me and then sent me the obit. Her married last name
was not listed, another dead end. But then I deceided to write to the funeral home who
handled the arrangements and asked them to forward a
letter to her. It turns out she the man who runs the funeral home is also the coroner and
she works in the county courts so they know each other. She had my letter within days.
Though we have yet to meet again face to face (Pat is in New York and I am in California)
we have renewed our friendship through
the mail and phone. This was all it took to find a friend I had not seen in nearly 20
years and for whom I had no current married last name. I did all
this after I had called her ex husband and several of her relatives who were of no help.
So tell people not to give up. It was my experience that most people are really pretty
helpful. Good luck to all who are looking.
By the way I have an e mail address for someone here in Calif. who has access to
birth records for bio parents and adoptees. Wrote to him for a friend and had the
adoption info on the child that same day.
If anyone wants it let me know (it is a free service).
Julie Schmidt, Santa Rosa, Ca.
I found my adopted sister's birthmother! I ended up having to buy the
information "underground", but they have had a very successful reunion by phone
and are planning a personal reunion soon. Her Birthmother actually ended up marrying her
birthfather, and they went on to have 4 more
sons...but no other daughters. When my sister made contact and asked that "loaded
question": Does the date March 16, 1958 mean anything to you? Her
birthmother answered: You're my daughter, aren't you?
Thank you for your support along the search path, and I wish you much good luck. Remember,
if you ever need a translation into Spanish, I will do it
Please remove Debbie's ad on your site: Number 19563
Thank you again, for everything.
Ft. Lauderdale, FL
I FOUND my family.
Thru the internet and with the help of a woman that does searches. I was born in 1931, my
parents were not married at the time and I was adopted by a wonderful family. Anyhow, as
soon as my birth mother turned 21 in 1935 she and my birth father married. They didn't
have any other children
until 1943 when my brother Chris was born, followed by sister Judie in 1945 and sister
Jean in 1947. They divorced in the early "50's and both remarried. He had two more
sons, my half brothers Richard and Harlan. To make along story short. Both parents are
dead but my sister Judie has been looking for me since 1972. We first talked in March of
and had a family reunion in Green Bay May 8th. More than 25 people were there, cousins,
aunts ect. It was really great. We are so much alike it
is uncanny, right down to all of us having small thumbs! If it hadn't been for the
internet I doubt if we would have been united. Thought you would like to hear a happy
My husband and I have been searching for his two children of a previous
marriage for years. We have finally found them and wish to remove our
add. He had not seen his children since 1950 and they were found by what we call our
angel. We decided to visit the town of their maternal grand
parents (who passed away some years ago). While having breakfast in a restaurant the
waitress asked if there was anything more she could do for
us. My husband said : "Yes, you can find my son". She asked his name and came
back in a few minutes. She asked his age . When she returned the
next time to our table she said: "I think I have your daughter-in-law on the
Our family really grew that day. The son and daughter have been found, three
grandchildren, a great grandchild and, a lovely and generous
daughter-in-law. My husband's children are no longer shadows in his mind.
His son is coming for a visit the first of September and his daughter is coming the first
Thanks for your service and you are doing great work. Wish we were closer to hear
the radio program.
Janice and James Scheuber
I want to "Thank You"! for all your time and support. I have
located my brother and you can update my ads ( #14050 and #23851). I did pay an
investigator for the information. He did alot of work and was very reasonable. I was given
his mothers name, phone number and address yesterday.
I called her and she gave me quite a bit of information about my brother.
He called me last night. It was absolutely wonderful. He never even knew I existed.
Thanks again for everything your support with your site and your emails certainly do bring
hope for alot of people.
Keep up the great work.
Thanks to information given by someone who had written to YOUR site in
the sought and found section, you may remove my Ad # 28422
Someone (I wish I had gotten their email address) had mentioned they had found someone
using Knowx.com (Some info is free other info small fee)
I had been looking at Knowx off and on for a month or two wondering if it was worth
trying. After that person had mentioned their success-I tried it.
Aug. 3-Used Knowx-found two names that matched my half sister's married name-one exactly;
First name middle NAME and last name. I got addresses
weren't found in any other DB
Aug. 5- sent out two letters
Aug. 8-Used another Knowx DB looked up, one of the address, hoping it would give me an
approximate year of birth (sometimes does) -instead I got a
name that fit my sister's husband's name. Now I was 99.999999999% sure I had found her.
Aug. 12-While I was sleeping (work nights) my youngest received a phone call from the
sister, Grace, that I had been looking for. Grace was given the phone number of our other
half sister. She got to talk to our father, now 85, who she hadn't seen since she was 13,
Grace will be 64 next month. Obviously
she was very excited. She had been trying to find us.
The next day Aug 13, it was my turn to talk to her. We plan to write, send pictures and
soon meet. I'm in Calif. She is in NJ I hope this encourages others who are
looking-with each of us helping one
another; everyone can be found.
Just to let you know found the desired party through old documents
released to family only recently
thanks for help please delete listing at earliest opportunity it's a great service keep up
the good work
Hi my name is David Wiedenfeld born on
7-31-58 to Hazel Randolph. I have FOUND her she is now Hazel Randolph Thompson. I spoke
with her this morning! I had two wonderful people who saw my listings on the internet and
did searches on their own. Thanks to all the sites on the net for places like this and to
all the people who took the time to read my add and do searches.
I have found my birthmother of whom I was searching for...I already knew
her maiden name and after a hint from another birthmom that emailed me I went to the
library and looked up wedding indexes in the geneology section...I found her name and her
husbands name with in 2 minutes.....I
have already met her too....
HI! I AM TRYING TO HELP A FRIEND FIND HER MOTHER . IS THERE ANY WAY OR
THERE A SITE TO EUROPE SUCH AS GERMANY? WE BELIEVE HER MOTHER WENT BACK TO GERMANY
I REALLY APPRECIATE YOUR EFFORTS. I FOUND MY BIO- FATHER THROUGH THIS WEB SITE. THANKS ,
IT HAD BEEN 51 YRS BUT I FOUND MY BIOLOGICAL FATHER.
I found my maternal grandmother, with the help of a volunteer with the
Volunteer Searchers Network. Thank you for letting me try here--and for
those who haven't been reunited yet--keep trying!